Being an aupair can be a rewarding adventure and learning experience. Being an aupair requires a commitment to helping others, integrity and the ability to be flexible. Finding the right family requires thoughtful evaluation of the type of situation that best suits you. To assist you in forming a successful relationship with your chosen family, we have provided some general guidelines to give you an idea of what to expect when working as an aupair for the first time.

• Click for in-depth information on Au Pair and Nanny Salaries. The aupair’s average weekly salary for 40 to 45 hours of childcare is US$195.75.
  
  
• An aupair should be provided with a private bedroom. Many families will have extra amenities in the room such as TV, stereo, phone, and computer, however this is not required and will be different with each family.
  
  
• An aupair’s living expenses, which include room and board, are covered by the family, unless the aupair requires unique dietary items or health supplements for which she/he should be responsible. Also the aupair is responsible for all personal items such as toiletries, hair care items, etc.
  
  
• The aupair should pay for her/his long distance phone calls.
  
  
• If the aupair is required to drive for the family, the family should pay for the gas for all required driving. However, typically the aupair pays for gas when using the car for personal use.
  
  
• The aupair is generally responsible for her/his medical insurance/expenses unless the aupair arrives through an agency, in which case insurance is included in the fees paid to the agency by both the family and aupair.
  
  
• Airfare for the aupair is usually negotiable. If the aupair does not come through an agency, families and aupairs often split the cost of a roundtrip ticket. If the aupair doesn’t have the money to pay for her/his half of the ticket up front, families can cover the cost and deduct the balance from wages. If the aupair comes to the U.S. through an agency, only the cost of airfare to New York is typically included in the placement fee paid to the agency by the family. The family would then have to get you from New York to their home.

Tips for a successful relationship with your host family

• Make sure that you are clear about your schedule and responsibilities and are in agreement with the family’s expectations.
  
  
• Remember that attitude is everything to a potential family. A family can train for skill, but it is difficult to train for attitude.
  
  
• If your are uncomfortable with something, be sure to approach your host family openly, and communicate your feelings respectfully. Most families will appreciate this and respect you more for responsibly confronting the situation.
  
  
• This job is all about making a difference, spreading joy and delight, allowing others into your heart and lending a helping hand. In the process you will experience many new people and places; learn and grow on many levels. It's what you bring to the experience that counts.
  
  
• Being appreciative and doing things without having to be asked are two simple qualities that make a great aupair.