| Why Toddlers Require So Much Patience
1. They need practice.
When you teach a toddler a guideline, she has to act it out several times to form the appropriate neural pattern in her brain. This feels like “testing,” or being oppositional, to her caregivers, but for the toddler it is simply practicing and learning.
2. They learn by example.
A toddler is learning to manage her emotions. She needs to see her caregivers experience all emotions-- including anger, fear, disappointment, and sadness-- so that she can learn how to manage these same feelings in herself. She’s curious about how adults handle unpleasant feelings, so she sometimes elicits them intentionally.
3. They can’t do it yet.
When your nervous system is young and new, strong emotions can quickly overload your circuits. It’s scary! Tantrums are a physical response to a situation that seems out of control to the toddler. It takes patience, confidence, and compassion to help her through it safely.
Dear Family,
The first three years of life is a sensitive period. Many children benefit from one-on-one attention and education during this time. Unfortunately, some parents are unable to provide the kind of attention they wish their children were getting.
I feel very drawn to children under age three. I love watching them learn about their worlds and helping them learn to communicate. In particular, I feel that I understand what it is like for toddlers to have tantrums and how to help them get through this period safely. My experience with children of toddler age is extensive and my references are stellar.
I am familiar with the Montessori style of teaching and have been an assistant in a Montessori class for toddlers. Additionally, I am comfortable and familiar with all aspects of infant care.
Kenna |