| This nanny was a huge disappointment. We hired her because we thought an older woman with grown kids would be responsible. She would understand the importance of child development, and the dangers of taking care of a toddler. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
In the beginning everything was great, she is very capable for the job. However, the second she gets comfortable, she gets really lazy. You constantly have to manage her, daily. If you give her weekly directions she does nothing. If you give her daily directions she does half poorly with one excuse or another, and says she forgot the other half. She writes nothing down, and takes no fault in forgetting everything you explain to her. Getting a live-in out of your house can be so complicated. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
The icing on the cake is the day I came home a few hours earlier than normal. She was in her room watching TV, and my 1.5 year old was in the bathtub by herself. In the morning when I was calmer over her almost killing my daughter for pure laziness I let her know that I rather she not bathe my daughter anymore, as she doesn't understand the dangers of it. She let me know that she had cried all night, that what happened was my fault (I forget what her twisted logic was) and that while she had not said anything previously becasue she didn't want to casue me marital problems, she had seen my husband do the same thing. (Not true) She also let me know that I was over reacting, that half a bathtub is not that much water. She just doesn't understand that 6 inches and 10 seconds is enough. I witnessed 30 seconds before she realized I was home and came running. What if I hadn't come home when I did? What if my daughter hadn't called me to her right away? In any case, she informed me that if the above was so alarming to me that she rather not work in my house if she couldn't do things her way. Obviously, I accepted her resignation.
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What hurt me just as much as the above incident, is that the weekend she left, I realized how many things she was doing behind my back with my child. She left a disgustingly dirty room for me to clean. In picking up what turned out to be 3 hefty garbage bags I found cooking products with MSG. We keep everything organic in this house, and had numerous times explained to her the importance of developing a childs taste buds to learn to appreciate healthy food. Since she never cooked for herself on weekends, and had previously informed me that she was eating what my daugter was eating for lunch, then clearly, my daughter was being given MSG. That same weekend, my daughter who is never allowed to watch TV, had a really nasty fall. So I turned on the TV to distract her and be able to exam her wound. In 2 seconds she said Barney, a show my husband and I do not put on for her. This so called loving nanny was undermining my parenting by knowingly going against the rules of the house. Children need a safe clean healthy environment and this woman could care less for any of them. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
A nanny should improve the quality of life for a family, not decrease it. |