| She is not who she says she is. She has been here for a two weeks. We came home & she was flying out the door, i can't do this anymore, it's too stressful, i'm sorry. She has left us high and dry. She spent the day yelling at my two sick kids, the girls said she was on the phone all day speaking africaans and to her friend Nancy in New York. She then deleted the phone numbers of all the people who called her during the day. She ate supper, had a cab waiting for her down the road.
Jess didn't get to say goodbye, her passion and calling are for kids.Two sick kids & she yelled all day at them. She can't handle stress. We sponsored her to Canada, waited 5 months for her. She begged us not to hire anyone else, sent emails, phone calls. It was hard but we waited. First week was great.
Wednesday found out Dad was in hospital & might not make it. She didn't know what she was going to do & I said I understand. Once I said that she said she found it too remote living rural, she didn't know what to do with the kids, she wanted to be near a larger south african community.
I was in shock, she was bubby & said "well that went well". I was scared, usually it gets quite nasty. RED LIGHT. This has happened before. She proceeded to look for work vigorously, what about dear old dad. Apparently, she hates him, he's an alcoholic and emotionally abusive. I had been had. I was her free ticket to a new world. She is extremely religious, doesn't tell you right off the bat. She had left one place the same day she started when the lady went to a kinesiology appt & had her tarot cards read. Another place, she had issues with the father.
She gets comfortable fast & its easy to like her personality but she oversteps her boundaries & takes advantage of you. She thinks nothing of getting on the phone from 11 to 2:30 after all you know my family is in South Africa. I told her out of respect for the other members of the family maybe she could schedule the calls so it didn't tie up our phone for hours. She said all you have to do is ask me to get off. I spoke to her last night and told her i would like her to leave by the end of June, she had committed to staying until we found another nanny and gave us her word but from the phone calls & reference checks I was getting for her, she was leaving sooner. I asked her what would happen if someone wanted her before I found someone else she said she didn't know. My husband and I were upset.
We felt she was using us for a place to live until she found another family, she used us to get to Canada, my profile said rural (she complained it should have said country), she knew the ages of my children & as far as the SA population, you can't tell that in a week. We had bought her cards to call home, I took her to church in Orleans (apparently its not that close 15 min drive) & waited 3 hrs for her. She asked me to take her the next week to the church that is an hour away, meaning service is 3 hrs plus 1 hr drive + 1hr drive back. My whole day off was for her. I didnt' mind I wanted her to feel welcome. I didn't go as she slept in & by then she was leaving.
She babysat my brothers kids & yelled at them all night, two of my girls were there also. When I came in, Jess came up to me & Cat said get your Kleenex ready sarcastically. I spoke to Jess in the washroom, Jenn didn't want to talk to Cat. The next day my brother told me the girls complained about her. Remember she staes her passion is kids.
She prefers babies, babies can't talk. The two girls were fighting with each other and she was yelling for them to stop. She claims she has a loud voice & it can be mistaken. She has an excuse for every thing. She cannot tell the truth in a stressful situation, cannot handle stress so if you find she had done sometime wrong, she will paddle backwards & blame anyone but herself. Ask for references from places where she has left like this lady that had her tarot cards done, and she had a problem with one father in another family. She didn't say goodbye to the kids or explain to them where she was going. She said she noticed I had changed towards her, she didnt understand as I had seemed fine when she told me. I told her we had a right to be upset, we were treating her in the same friendly manner just not buying her phone cards or going out of our way for her.
I spoke to her about the daily routine, etc but I could not carry on a personal conversation with her on a friend basis. My husband told me she was a scammer & would up & leave & he laughed when she ran out the laneway. He said we really have been had. She is a coward, she cannot handle criticism, she is the perfect nanny in her eyes. She will tell you sob stories & you will feel for her. She was a disruptive kid in school & got into alot of trouble she tells me. Looks like it's still happening. Very unprofessional. |
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