| I interviewed Mel in the uk before we came over to Australia. She was amazing at interview and me and my sister thought we had landed on our feet with her!! She came to our house on a couple of occasions to spend the day with us to get to know us. She was very welcome and she had lots of ideas of what to do when she came out to join us in Australia. One thing i noticed about her was that she was somewhat reserved and distant at times, but i just put that down to nerves and not knowing us.
When she arrived in australia and all was not well from the beginning. She was withdrawn and distant from the word go. Not interacting with my daughter and not doing her chores for herself or my daughter. Cooking meals that was not well thought out ie no vegetables or no fruit. All she was interested in was snacking on junk food, internet, mobile phone and going out with her 'friends'.
I chatted with her about this and she made a slight improvement but things were still not right. I had to have words with her again after she had a pan fire in the house - she lit a pan with oil in and left it to go to the toilet, leaving my daughter in the kithcen. Ruined a pan and the cooker hood. Never apologised for this or anything for that matter. I told her that her attitude wasn't good enough, that she was irresponsible and i couldn't live with her like this ect....ect...she practically pleaded with me to give her another chance...that she really wanted the job...she loved living here....ect...ect, so I gave her another chance.
A couple of weeks followed and she started to lie (i would ask my 8 year old every day what she was up to). Though i think she was lying from the start, i just wasn't aware. She had a boyfriend that she failed to mention (caught her walking hand in hand weeks after arriving in australia and i think she knew him before arriving here) She told me she was out of the city for the weekend at a friends house by the sea.
On 1 occasion she left my daughter in a swimming pool unattended, whilst she went to the toilet. She picked my daughter up late from school because she had gone into the city, lying that she was ill just to have the day off. After this i had decided that i was going to sack her, so i started looking for another aupair. I never told her this though.
She never gave me the chance to sack her though. One day i came back from work after my late shift. She said she was going out to make a call. I though that was strange, why didn't she call from the house when i was at work...Anyway, she never returned home. I realized she was gone that the following morning when i woke up. She had cleared all her stuff out that evening whist i was at work, before i arrived home. She left no note, no text message or call to say anything.
After she left, I went through her rubbish that she had binned and found that she had been looking for apartments to live in and was going to job interviews in the city.
I am now convinced that she was so desperate to come to australia to be with this guy and has since moved in with him. She basically used us as a stepping stone. |
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